Underground Motherhood

Divorce Counseling

For reasons that keep unfolding, my story continues to matter. And when I tell it, it holds the power to change the narrative of the listener – and that is important work. Today, I am sharing openly about a piece of my story that needs to be told, for my own growth and hopefully to help another. There are times as a therapist, we choose to share our story if we feel it may benefit our client, but, sharing is not always easy, even for us. However, I see too many … Read More

We all have Stories – Including Therapists

relationship help

I listen to stories for a living. It’s important work. The stories are important and so are the clients who tell them, which is why we, at the Montfort Group, are dedicating the first part of 2018 to blogging about our own stories, and those that have moved us. We all have stories – including therapists. And today, this therapist’s story is that she can’t stand writing. I’d rather drop to the floor and grunt through 50 push-ups than write. But here I am with a deadline to meet by … Read More

Love and Fear in Parenting

So, I experienced a major parenting fail the other day. A parenting “ef up”, if you will. I wasn’t having the sort of week where I felt on top of academics, summer activities, nutrition, behavior, and temper tantrums. Those are fewer and further between when you’re, well, a human being leading a normal life. I was having the sort of week where everything bled into everything else. I wasn’t sleeping well, which in turn impacted my pace at work, which then made me feel even more tired and frustrated, which then affected my self-esteem, which sort of … Read More

Chaos.

The last few days have been difficult, to say the least. Our world is in pain. On many levels, we are witnessing chaos. It can be hard to process emotionally and even, intellectually, all of the violence here at home and abroad. There are many passionate opinions, devastating details, and suggestions for solutions. But, the problem seems too big to solve in one dogmatic article, one particular president, or even one specific religion. I am a firm believer in the statement, “chaos precedes change.” Historically, there have been countless paradigm … Read More