A Mother’s Story: When Joy and Grief Collide

Individual counseling

A year ago in December, my former husband of 20 years, died at the young age of 63.  Ross was diagnosed 9 months earlier with metastatic melanoma, a silent and deadly disease he had overcome twice before. This time there was no way out.  After months of experimental treatment and tough side effects, he opted for palliative care which provided comfort for six more weeks before he passed away. In the midst of the grief and fear, there was a happy surprise – my daughter’s boyfriend proposed in Ross’ hospital … Read More

A Therapist’s Resolution for the New Year

Megha Pulianda

I speak about my role-juggling act often. Many of you know that I am a teacher, a student, and a therapist. I am also a partner, daughter, parent, friend, peer, and colleague. Clearly I wear many hats, as we all do. In an effort to get through each week or semester I sometimes attend to just a few of these identities at a time. Sometimes I lose sight of the other meaningful parts of my life. Sometimes I lose sight of myself. In academic settings, we are taught that the best lessons come from teachers and textbooks. … Read More

When Family Hurts

gay therapy

As a child, I remember embarking on wonderful adventures, often played out in my head, traveling distant worlds, battling evil sorcerers, and casting out demons. I related to the hero in the timeless comic strip Calvin & Hobbes. Although I wasn’t nearly as mischievous as him, I related to his longing for freedom, his innocent love of adventure, and the promise of a better world. In my family, the casting out of demons wasn’t a setup for make-believe. It was a somewhat normal affair. We believed in miracles and in … Read More